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JoeSorge
10-18-2011, 10:09 AM
This week I finally got a chance to catch up on my reading and happened upon this great post at http://the99percent.com
It really got me thinking about the best ways to handle the situation. Chris, CC, and I will discuss at length LIVE on Tuesday at 2pm on The Pulse Network.

Would really enjoy hearing your thoughts.


<div class="intro">"Mistakes are the portals of discovery," James Joyce once said. It may be hard to remember this if you were the guy who <a target="_blank" href="http://aws.amazon.com/message/65648/">incorrectly rerouted</a> some network traffic on Amazon&rsquo;s Web Services environment, causing the outage that took down the whole network for nearly 24 hours earlier this year.</div>
<div>While your mistakes probably won't disable thousands of websites, it is in your best interest to limit the damage from a mistake and, most importantly, learn all you can from it.</div>
<div><br />Here are a few tips on how to effectively bounce back -- and grow stronger -- when you make a bad call:</div>
<div><br /><strong>1. Own your mistake.</strong></div>
<div>It's too bad if circumstances were against you, or somebody you counted on failed you, or you just had a bad day. According to Justin Menkes' wonderful book <a target="_blank" href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1422138704/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=shotalinnmara-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=217145&amp;creative=399373&amp;creati veASIN=1422138704"><em>Better Under Pressure</em></a>, truly great leaders don't blame others when things go wrong. They instead have a high "<a target="_blank" href="http://caddellinsightgroup.com/blog2/2011/06/great-leaders-must-have-a-powerful-sense-of-agency/">sense of agency</a>," which is "the degree to which people attribute their circumstances and the outcomes they experience to being within their own control."</div>
<div><br /><strong>2. Fix it if you can, and tell your leader.</strong></div>
<div>Don't be a "<a target="_blank" href="http://caddellinsightgroup.com/blog2/2007/06/quiet-fixers-are-the-enemy-of-learning/">quiet fixer</a>." Mistakes often have side effects, and pretending that it didn't happen is dangerous. In this <a target="_blank" href="http://hbr.org/2007/07/lessons-from-toyotas-long-drive/ar/1"><em>Harvard Business Review</em> interview</a>, former Toyota chairman Katsuaki Watanabe stated, "Hidden problems are the ones that become serious threats eventually. If problems are revealed for everyone to see, I will feel reassured. Because once problems have been visualized, even if our people didn't notice them earlier, they will rack their brains to find solutions to them."</div>
<div><br /><strong>3. Apologize to anyone affected.</strong></div>
<div>Make it a real apology. ("I'm sorry I caused your group all that downtime"), not something lame and self-protective ("I wish it hadn't happened"). For an example of how NOT to do it, see <a target="_blank" href="http://www.ft.com/cms/s/0/50000286-074f-11de-9294-000077b07658.html">this video</a> from the <em>Financial Times</em> of former Bank of America CEO Ken Lewis "apologizing" for mistakes made during the financial crisis.</div>
<div><br /><strong>4. Reflect on the mistake.</strong></div>
<div>Think about what caused it, and what you did that contributed to the situation. You can't learn anything from external factors, so forget about them (see #1: you are building a high sense of agency). What can you do differently? This may be easier to do when some time has passed, especially if the mistake and its aftermath were particularly painful or embarrassing. Consider&nbsp;former US Secretary of Defense <a target="_blank" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_McNamara">Robert S. McNamara</a>. Widely vilified for his role in the Vietnam War, it took him 30 years before he wrote a memoir,<em> In Retrospect</em>, in which he finally came to terms with the consequences of his decisions.</div>
<div><br /><strong>5. Address the root cause.</strong></div>
<div>If you systematically reflect on mistakes, you will realize there are patterns in your performance that contribute to these errors. And once you realize that, you are well on the way to fixing that pattern. For example, after missing two customer calls in a brief time, I concluded that I needed to overhaul my organizational system. I spent time over the next several months reading and implementing David Allen's <a target="_blank" href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0142000280/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=shotalinnmara-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=217145&amp;creative=399369&amp;creati veASIN=0142000280"><em>Getting Things Done</em></a> method, which made it much easier to juggle many customers at once.</div>
<div><br /><strong>6. Share what you learned.</strong></div>
<div>In some environments, this sharing can be a lifesaver.&nbsp; In her <a target="_blank" href="http://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/5588.html">research on learning in hospitals</a>, Amy Edmondson of Harvard University discovered that the highest-performing nursing units had reported the largest number of mistakes. Not because they made more mistakes, but because they felt safe to report and share the ones they did make.</div>
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<div>Adopting these practices may not make mistakes any less embarrassing, but it will help prevent disasters and ensure that you don't make the same mistake twice. And won't that allow you to sleep a little easier?</div>
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<div><strong>What's Your Take?</strong></div>
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<div>Do you have any best practices for recovering from mistakes?</div>
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<div><em>John Caddell is the curator of <a target="_blank" href="http://mistakebank.caddellinsightgroup.com/">The Mistake Bank</a>, a site that collects stories of business mistakes and articles on learning from mistakes and failure. You can follow him at <a target="_blank" href="http://twitter.com/jmcaddell">@jmcaddell</a>.</em></div>

raulcolon
10-18-2011, 11:47 AM
I was going to reply but you covered a lot more in what you shared.

I guess when I make a mistake I apologize and try as much as possible to forget about the situation and move on forward learning from the lessons that I might hahave gotten from the situation.

Brew
10-18-2011, 01:55 PM
The best way to bounce back from a big mistake is just that: Bounce Back. The post touches on owning it, fixing it, apologizing, reflecting, doing root cause analysis, learning, and sharing. But when that process is over, you cannot go into a slump. You need to pick your head up and move on, knowing that you are wiser than you were before the mistake. Bounce back into action, keeping your "eye on the ball", ready for that next challenge.

simoncmason
10-18-2011, 03:46 PM
Definitely apologise first.

People contacting you to complain of a.problem caused by your mistake will be expecting an argument or denial, they've been trained to expect this by 1000 sales avoidance departments, so a sincere apology works wonders.

Before you know it you'll be friends and buzzing from a difficult situation turned around by a human response. This should be all you need to avoid the slump and bounce back fast.

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RyanS
10-19-2011, 09:06 AM
Someone once said: If you're not making mistakes, you're not trying hard enough!

Everyone makes mistakes, so whether big or small, try to remember life will go on! Will people remember your mistake? Chances are some will, but never as many as you think!

Keep Trying!

shelmke
11-09-2011, 09:58 AM
I think the biggest thing I make sure I do when I make a mistake is your No. 1 listed above. I always own up to it. I'm a human being and human beings make mistakes. As long as I can learn from it and try to make sure it doesn't happen again, I think it's okay to make one every now and again. As Ryan pointed out, if you're always taking the safe route to avoid making mistakes, you're not trying hard enough and probably missing out on some great opportunities along the way. Nobody is perfect but nobody is successful without making a few mistakes either.